
What brings us together
Whenever I witness or am part of people coming together out of love or to do something for the common good, I tear up. It’s always been the case. When I walked for women’s rights, when I watched the march scene in Selma, when I got to be a maid of honour.. Belonging to something that makes us better together is a powerful feeling.
Organizations and brands often speak of their own communities, but most of them attract opportunists (through discounts, free content, etc..). If we are to create connections between people on a deeper lever, we need to study the strongest communities first and decode what creates and maintains genuine bonds.
Inspired, since 2009
Sometimes, it’s a book that stays with us, a movie, a talk we watch…
Well this time, it’s an article I read in 2009 in HBR Magazine. It’s called “getting brand communities right” (by Susan Fournier and Lara Lee). It contains theories about community dynamic and debunks myths.
What interested me the most were the types of community affiliation that they analyzed (Pools have a shared activity, goal or values – , Hubs gather around a charismatic leader -, and Webs are based on personal relationships) but also the 18 roles (historian, mentor, provider, greeter…) one may play within a community and each of them are needed for various reasons.
So, it wasn’t as simple as marketers try to make it. Humans are much more fascinating and complex. To want to belong with others, we need motivation, we need reassurance, we need to find our places, we need stability, but also space for evolution.
I was therefor inspired to develop the “Community Dynamics Framework” :
– first we will need to understand what type of magnet brings your people together,
– what types of engagement levels are fulfilled,
– and what types of vitamins your members need in order to be fully empowered
Community Magnets ©
As time passed, I started looking into the subject matter myself. What brings the members of the Turkish Cultural Association of Luxembourg together for instance? What brings the gamers of World of Warcraft who created shared ressources and playbooks worth thousands of hours of production together? What brings the drag community together?
Common sense led the way and I realized that three types of magnets attract us together and they may be activated solo or simultaneously.

LOVE : We may come together because we enjoy the same passion or activity and sharing it makes the joy even bigger. –> Gamers for example
NEED : We may come together because we need solutions to the same issues. We can combine our ressources to be stronger, to solve the problem faster (or even survive) and support each other. –> People who have the same incurable disease for example
BE : We may come together because we have a shared history, a common identity and it is important for us to keep being who we are, to remember, to transmit our culture. –> Expatriates from the same country living abroad
For example, Drag Culture mixes all three of these : they need to come together to fight for their rights, they enjoy celebrating creative self expression and they have a common history.
The strongest communities are not designed or made up. They form organically because life happens. But knowing what brings us together may allow us to take better care of our communities. And that can be a fantastic reason for a creative workshop ; )

Engagement levels ©
There is a difference between casually checking content on a social media account and actually behaving as the member of a community, going to physical or online meetings, using your skills or knowledge, lending your resources, giving time on a frequent basis…
The community belongs to the community, but it needs multiple types of roles as mentioned before to last.
There seems to be multiple levels and circles of engagement within the community halo. At the heart of it are the managers (who may or may not be the founders) who are fully invested in nurturing and maintaining the community, then there are the members (who come to most events, give feedback, share resources, support the community as often as they can), and the visitors (those who are on a “test drive”, curious about what it’s like, but not fully engaged yet).
If you know there are more people out there who may benefit in sharing the NEED, BE and/or LOVE dynamic of your community, you may want to spread the word about your community’s existence (using content, advertising..), but the first and most powerful lever is to make sure your current members are fulfilled. They will be the greatest ambassadors of your tribe.
Community Vitamins ©
What makes people come at first may be the purpose (N/B/L) behind their wish to belong somewhere, to share something or to progress towards a common goal, but what makes them stay is the experience in itself.
My readings, benchmarks and interviews have allowed me to observe 4 types of “community vitamins” (things that nurture the community members and their bonds) :
– Freedom (F) : fully transparent information that gives you the power of making your own decisions within the community
– Connections (C) : having the tools to connect with other members, to develop positive relationships, support and help each other, share your experiences
– Growth (G) : being given the opportunity to take initiatives and apply your skills and knowledge, overcome challenges, learn from them, or to access to a common pool of knowledge, data, information
– Joy (J) : not forgetting to celebrate the common joys, common values, the purpose, the results… no matter what brings you together. Even if your common goal is to fight against a horrible truth, the members need to have light hearted experiences, to have fun and good times together.
Each organization or community’s “managers” can gather to do check-ups to see if they have developed the tools, the rituals, the events, the habits… that offer the right amount of FCGJ to their members. They don’t have to get a 10 out of 10 on every criteria of course, but they may get a chance to realize where their weaknesses are, why people may be leaving or not engaging in a generous and genuine way.

.Where to begin ?
If you are interested to develop an engaging and long lasting community, we can lead a workshop together. I will help you identify your community magnets, assess the engagement levels of your various types of members, and check up if you have the right types of community vitamins available for your people. If not, we can brainstorm to determine what means and tools you can develop.
This can take the form of a keynote given to your teams for inspiration, a training to learn how to apply this methodology.

