Helping our worlds flow together
Love brings couples together, and then sometimes… life happens.
You lose your spark, don’t know how to communicate, don’t understand each other’s behaviour or “what happened”.
So let’s work hand in hand to help each partner understand what they need, what they feel and express it. Let’s do some healthy check-ups to make sure you two are still compatible and good for each other, and tailored exercises to reignite your love ❤
We will need to work on three levels :
1/ SELF LOVE : Do I love and respect myself as I deserve to? Am I taking care of my own needs and putting the right boundaries? Do I have any limiting beliefs or wounds that make me sabotage my relationship? Am I expecting from my partner some of the things I should be doing for myself?
2/ COMPATIBILITY : Are we still aligned enough to want compatible things, share a vision for today and tomorrow and be grateful for each other’s presence in our lives? Do I love my partner for who they are or am I trying to change them?
3/ COMMUNICATION : Do we know how to give and receive love in a way that fits each other’s needs? Do we make quality time and space in our lives for ourselves and each other? Do we know how to use non violent communication to express our needs kindly and efficiently on a daily basis?
— Neşem Ertan, RNCP certified CBT coach
3 steps to reconnect your worlds
Aim – Intro
“The how to do it comes to those who believe they can do it.” David Schwartz
The first session allows us to talk, all three of us together. You can fill me in on the main chapters of your relationship so far, tell me what brought you here and we will set a goal together.
I will become a neutral guide for the both of you, a co-pilot who will help check-up your individual needs, your compatibility as a couple and equip you with the tools to improve your relationship.
As a coach, I will be an unconditional supporter of both of partners’ fulfilment.
Realign – Solo
“If you don’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?” – Ru Paul ; )
Once we start, there will be a few sessions of solo coaching during which I will see each one of you on your own.
You will be invited to respect this phase and not talk about your sessions to each other. This will be your “me-time” and yours to protect.
The idea is to start with doing some check-ups on each partner’s self love, well-being and limiting beliefs, to detect their love language and needs.
We may use cognitive behavioural therapy to empower the partner in need, before we focus on the couple’s progress. If the evaluation indicates that the person needs other types of support that I do not offer (such as psychotherapy) this step will help bring it to the surface and take action accordingly.
Reconnect – Duo
“The more shared past there is in a relationship, the more present you need to be.” – Eckhart Tolle
Once the solo sessions are done, you will be ready to start couples’ exercises that will be tailored to the needs detected through the first session and the solo sessions.
A few examples:
– Use Non violent Communication to set healthy boundaries
– Work on your common definitions to empower your connections (gender, love, life, money, home, couple, family, children, pleasure, future…)
– Acknowledge each other’s love language and learn to emphasize on the ones you have in common
– And more… : )
The result may help you realize that you are no longer compatible and help you go through a kind and caring break up, or it may bring the two of you closer than ever. In both scenarios, you will be able to leave the frictions behind you and renew the peace and flow of your life.
Worlds. 